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The Oscar for Masterful Personal Style Goes To…….

The Oscar for Masterful Personal Style Goes To…….

Some of the top fashion, hair and makeup stylists collaborate on Oscar night to create looks that bring out the unique beauty of their stars and celebrities. Now, you can know their secret formula for masterful style.

It all comes down to honoring the woman first and using color, fabrics, and styles to enhance her natural features and energetic style.

 

 

Marie Kondo

Marie Kondo’s delicate face and sweet expression is honored by her delicate sheer pink gauze Jenny Packham dress. The soft pink dress, lipstick and nail color is perfect for bringing out her Spark Joy radiant glow.

Marie’s youthful feathered bangs are made more lively by the gauzy feathered edges of her neckline and sleeves. The carefully chosen mirrored embellishment of her dress does not overpower her delicacy but enhances her personal effervescence.

 

 

 

Danai Gurira

The star of Black Panther and the Walking Dead television series, Dana Gurira is exalted to Goddess status in her 22-carat gold Brock Collection dress. The color brings out her gorgeous amber brown skin and the splendid embossed brocade texture of the dress trimmed in black resonates with her long black braids.

The play between black and gold in her dress, hair and twist earrings exemplifies a mastery of artistic design. The eye delights in seeing a dominantly gold dress edged in black juxtaposed against the opposite composition of powerful, thick black braids topped by a delicate gold crown. Of particular note is how the round crown frames her beautiful rounded forehead!

 

Emma Stone

The statuesque strength and beauty of Emma Stone is elevated to new powerful heights in her cognac sequined Louis Vuitton gown. The warm and brilliant color enhances her natural warm skin tones, freckles and green eyes.

Although a natural blond, Emma’s warm skin and eyes let her play with shades of red hair. This deep red gives her a stronger contrast to her light skin and holds up against the edgy geometric pattern of the dress and stiffened sleeves. I would love, however, to see a more dramatic, fuller updo hairstyle to match her power play look. Her eye and lip makeup are beautifully chosen and blended to perfection. Even the backdrop and carpeting honor the lady Stone!

The “YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL” Challenge.

What you believe about yourself is who you are.

If it’s difficult to look in the mirror and say to yourself, “You are beautiful,” then you are a woman who isn’t allowing herself to be beautiful and you aren’t alone. Ninety-eight percent of all women don’t like how they look and think they need to lose weight or exercise to be considered beautiful. But the truth is believing you are flawed gives your power away and disconnects you from your body. Thinking you aren’t beautiful keeps you from feeling confident in your own skin.

There are many, many reasons why women don’t think they are beautiful and that’s a topic for another blog. What I want to tell you is I have good news!

The idea that we should strive as women to achieve beauty dictated by society is as dated as a phone book.

There is a new beauty paradigm in town that empowers women to own their beauty.

 STELLAR BEAUTY

 The new touchstone for beauty is the woman who loves her body like a best friend. What’s sexy and desirable now is the woman who embodies her own beauty. She sees and appreciates herself when she looks in the mirror. She isn’t afraid to dress in a way that makes her feel beautiful. She feels comfortable in her own skin. She seems calmer, easier and freer to be herself than other women.

 She is the new beautiful, she is a Stellar Beauty. And guess what? She didn’t get there by dieting, exercising or changing her physical appearance. She got there by making a choice to believe in her own beauty. She got there by releasing all the old reasons she thought she wasn’t beautiful. All the excuses, all the societal triggers, all the things she was told when she was a kid.

 Stellar Beauty is the sense of belonging, ease and naturalness being in your own skin. Having Stellar Beauty is far more powerful and effective than having society’s idea of the “perfect” body. With it, you are more confident, joyful and authentic. You radiate energy that lifts and inspires others to be themselves. If you can be open to the possibility of loving and embracing your body just the way it is, you will rediscover the Stellar Beauty you were born with.

OUTING THE BEAST

The first step to claiming your Stellar Beauty is becoming consciously aware of the negative body image chatter floating around in your head. I call her The Beast. The Beast builds her platform of persuasion that you aren’t beautiful in childhood and continues to compare you to thousands of digitally enhanced media images you see on a weekly basis. The Beast might say things like “You are too fat to be beautiful.” or “You look like a fool compared to her.”

Most of the time the Beast is lurking around in the back in your subconscious mind. You may not even be aware of what the Beast is saying when you look at yourself in the mirror. So, we are going to “out” the Beast using the following simple but effective mirror exercise. It’s designed to test the Beast and get all the negatives out of your head and on to paper. You’ll be using a large hand mirror or wall mirror to do this exercise.

 

“YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL” MIRROR EXERCISE

 Get comfortable in a safe space in front of your mirror. The bathroom is a great place to do this exercise.

 Say to your image in the mirror, “You are beautiful.”

Notice any resistance in your mind like, “No way!” or “You’ve got to be kidding” and write down your initial thoughts and feelings.

Imagine the way you feel in your body when you see something beautiful like a scene in nature. Bring that energy to the statement and continue repeating “You are beautiful” in the mirror. Notice changes in the tone of your voice and your level of belief in the statement. Keep writing down any negatives that come up.

Congratulations! You just “outed” your Beast and now you can consciously decide whether you want to believe these statements or not.

The Beast has good intentions for objecting to you believing you are beautiful. See which objections you relate to below. This will help you release old beliefs, so you embrace your beauty more fully.

As you continue to practice this exercise, notice what you love about your face and body. Change your statement to “You are beautiful because….“ and finish the sentence describing a physical characteristic you love. Keep repeating with as many positives as you want. Once you have written down your positive statements, post them on your mirror and repeat them every day for 30 days.

 THE BEAST OF SHAME

Emotional Response: “No way, not me. I’m not beautiful.”

How it shows up: Wearing clothes that feel safe. Wearing clothes that don’t show your shape. Wearing black all the time when you really love color. Feeling bored about your wardrobe. Wearing the same thing over and over to not be noticed. Waiting till the last minute to purchase clothes for an upcoming event.

Underlying fear: Of standing out and being humiliated

Positive Intention: The Beast of Shame wants to protect you from being embarrassed or humiliated. She thinks something bad will happen if you stand out. Her line of reasoning is, “If you stay below the beauty radar and hide out, no one will notice, and you won’t risk being embarrassed about the way you look.”

Truth: You are not invisible. What people will notice is that you are trying to hide out and this non-verbal cue can speak louder than if you wear something you love and feel good in.

Old belief: Who I am isn’t special enough to be considered beautiful.

Reframe: When I show up feeling comfortable in my body and beautiful in my clothes, I have more energy, am more effective at work and more capable of helping others.

 

THE BEAST OF CONCEIT

Emotional Response: “What an arrogant thing to say! Who do you think you are?”

How it shows up: Being unwilling to spend money on nice clothes. Under dressing at social gatherings. Wearing only practical clothes. Being unable to receive compliments for the way you look or what you are wearing.

Underlying fear: Rejection and losing love.

Positive Intention: The Beast of Conceit wants you to be liked and wants to protect you from losing friendships. Her line of reasoning is, “If you think you are beautiful, you are trying to be better than others.”

Truth: Believing in your personal beauty encourages others to do the same. It is a physical demonstration of the way you want others to feel about themselves.

Old belief: Other people and the way they look and feel are more important than me.

Reframe: Believing in my beauty allows me to see beauty in others. People are drawn to my positive energy when I stand in my unique beauty. It’s easy to make friends.

 

THE BEAST OF RESIGNATION

Emotional Response: “I am too old, too fat, and too worn out to be beautiful.”

How it shows up: Not caring about how you look. Avoiding looking in the mirror. Wishing you were younger. Complaining about current fashion. Avoiding shopping altogether.

Underlying fear: Being excluded.

Positive Intention: The Beast of Resignation wants to protect you from being excluded. Her line of reasoning is, “If you don’t care about how you look you won’t know what you are missing.”

Truth: Apathy breeds discontentment, isolation and exclusion from life

Old belief: Beauty has an expiry date and I have passed it.

Reframe: Beauty comes from within and is expressed on the outside. I can cultivate beauty in myself no matter my age or size.

 

THE BEAST OF COMPARISON

Emotional Response: Compared to other women, I’m not beautiful”

How it shows up: Worrying about how others will perceive you. Feeling jealous or resentful of other women. Being unsure about what to buy or what to wear to events. Cancelling plans.

Underlying fear: Not measuring up, failure

Positive Intention: The Beast of Comparison wants to keep you from feeling disappointed in yourself. By comparing you with others, it keeps you failing.

Truth: Comparing and despairing only makes you feel worse

Old belief: If I’m not good enough or attractive enough I don’t have to try and therefore won’t be disappointed with results.

Reframe: I’m perfect as I am and what is important is that I enjoy being in my body

Are you craving a change in the way you view your body and your style?

The Friend Your Body to Rock Your Style online group program is designed to help you embrace your body and strut your style in a safe and supportive private group of like-minded women.

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Subtle Shades of Style: Find Your Style Vibe

You have a built-in style meter that intuitively knows your personal style vibe. Fashion intuition exists in all women whether you love clothes or feel you don’t have a clue about them. Have you ever had the wonderful pleasure of wearing an outfit that makes you feel free and confident in yourself? If so, you tapped in to your personal style vibe. (If not, no worries, I am here to help ?)

Imagine the head to toe details of this look and ask yourself, “What parts of this look were feminine and what parts more masculine?” This is one of the best ways to gauge your personal style vibe.

To get a clearer idea of feminine and masculine fashion, make sure you take the Yin/Yang Style Quiz (click here). Your results will show you which styles support the characteristics of your unique features and inner temperament.

I am going to help you tap into your style vibe by demonstrating how a simple collection of six garments that range from ultra-feminine to tough tomboy and three pair of shoes can generate a host of different style vibes. The pieces you see are straight out of my own wardrobe except the black men’s tie. I borrowed it from my hubby. (I love my denim shirt and it does have a matching narrow tie, but I didn’t have it for this photo shoot.) I lean to the more feminine side in my style and have lots of dresses and skirts in my wardrobe.

The most important fashion pieces to consider when creating your style vibe are in this order: 

  1. Top   
  2. Bottom   
  3. Shoes  
  4. Other accessories (jewelry, handbag, belt, scarf)  
  5. Third Layer (jacket, coat, sweater, vest)

 

Here are the items you will see in the following pictures:

YIN SKIRT: Cream silk taffeta, floaty and flared

YIN TOP: Green and white, ruffled chiffon blouse

YIN COAT: Metallic green, fit and flare jacket

YIN SHOES: Green bejeweled and brocaded slip-on mules

YIN BELT: Green sequin encrusted sparkly belt

YANG PANTS: Embroidered boyfriend jeans

YANG TOP: Denim shirt

YANG COAT: Bronze Down Puffy jacket

YANG SHOES: Green pointy-toe cowboy boots

YANG SHOES: Cream perforated sneaker

YANG TIE: Black Menswear tie

 

From the outfits below, which style vibe(s) do you like best?

Which one(s) would you wear?

Which one(s) would you not wear?

 

If you chose A or B, your style vibe is clearly feminine. Anything worn exclusively by women like dresses and skirts are a big part of the feminine wardrobe. The following style elements also express femininity:

Light, bright colors/ Translucent, soft, luminous, shiny fabrics/ floral and other feminine prints/ fluid, floaty, flared, flowy, ruffled, gathered shirred, swishy or body-hugging styles/ Intricate details like beading, embroidery, applique, metallics, lace, ruffles/ open necklines, empire waistlines, peplum flared tops and jackets. Feminine accessories include high heels, delicate sling backs, open toe pumps, pretty kitten heels, ballet flats/ Purses in soft leather and rounded shapes/ Jewelry that is delicate, small scale, sparkly and in curved shapes.

 

If you chose C, you like a relaxed feminine Yin look. Work with your accessories to change the style vibe from all feminine to a slightly more tomboy, relaxed look like the perforated cream sneakers shown in C. Loosening the top and wearing it out over the skirt is another way to subtly make a feminine outfit more Yang. 

 

If you chose D, you like to contrast feminine elements with one strong masculine style like the boyfriend jeans. 

If you chose E or F, your style vibe is clearly masculine. Items that men would also wear and have a much more androgynous appeal are a big part of the Yang wardrobe. Items like shirts, baseball or graphic tees, Bomber and military jackets are Yang. The following style elements also express masculinity:

Dark, muted colors/ Opaque, resilient, more weighted fabrics like denim and leather/ menswear and geometric prints/ Styles that drape or are constructed in straight or diagonal lines, Structured, boxy, or pleated styles that hold their shape without much movement, loose on-the body styles, solid colors, few details or embellishment, and modest necklines. Masculine accessories include men’s style loafers, oxfords, brogues, sneakers, flats, boots, chunky sandals/ Handbags that are hard leather, square shapes, backpacks/ Jewelry that is bold, large scale, geometric or made from antiqued, distressed or earthy materials.

If you chose G, you like a softer Yang look. Work with your accessories to change the style vibe from all Yang to a slightly softer look like the green sequin encrusted sparkly belt shown in G.

If you chose H, you like to contrast feminine elements with one strong masculine style like the boyfriend jeans shown in H.

What’s your style vibe?

Pretty and Feminine Yin (A & B)

Relaxed Feminine Yin (C)

Dominant Feminine Yin with strong Tomboy Yang contrast (D)

True Tomboy Yang (E &F)

Soft Tomboy Yang (G)

Dominant Tomboy Yang with strong feminine Yin contrast (F)

 

Let’s talk about your wardrobe! Book your free consultation (here) to find out how to create your Personal Style Vibe with your own clothes.